On Trend: White Boots

Alright, first and foremost, admit I’m going to admit that I was not into this trend when I first started to see it pop back up. I thought it looked kind of old school. You know, it brought me back to moments of white church shoes in my younger years. But the more I see it, the more into it I’m becoming. It is just like wearing a pop color with an all-black outfit or replacing nude with white, which works ultimately. I decided to try to challenge myself and see if I could create 3 looks featuring white boots. I can admit that sometimes I’m not sure of what to wear with certain things, and just like anyone perfecting their craft, I do research. I was actually very pleased with the outcome of these outfits, I’m kind of happy I decided to purchase these boots. The boots are from ASOS, they are currently sold out, but I found something similar that I’ll link below.

You know I have to add a tidbit of personal lessons learned in every blog post. What I learned from this particular situation is you don’t have to be afraid of a trend because you are unsure of what to wear it with. I think people believe that because I blog about fashion, I don’t need inspiration. We all gain knowledge through the same route, which is experience and sometimes research. I am not ashamed of admitting that sometimes I filter through Pinterest and see what inspires me, that’s okay! We aren’t born with knowledge, just the ability to learn. Be open to new knowledge and experiences, you might learn a few things. You know what I learned? That white boots can create a different look.

First: White boots paired with black leather pants and a sheer black shirt with black polka dots. I loved this look! I found that the white boots made me look taller, which isn’t a bad thing! All I would need is a cute clutch, and I’d be ready for a night out.

Second: White boots paired with…. I’m not sure what to call this pattern, maybe tie-dye? But its black and white, with puffed sleeves. The dress has POCKETS, always a plus, and a tie waist. I fell in love with the dress immediately. It’s excellent for all-weather, layer a jacket over it for the colder seasons, and pair it with sandals for the warmer seasons.

Third: White boots paired with leopard print skirt, white t-shirt, and a black leather jacket. Probably my favorite outfit in this post. The skirt is very slimming, it might have been a little thin for winter, but I don’t get that cold. The jacket added an extra layer of cute to this outfit, in my opinion, broke it up. By the way, y’all see I’m wearing skirts more, right? All 2020!

Sweaters and Skirts

Okay, so, it is 2020, and we are doing our best to make this year everything we want it to be! So, remember last year when I wore that gorgeous, white skirt from Target? One, the skirt was an absolute hit! Two, I fell in love with skirts and decided to purchase a lot more. I was afraid to wear skirts because I felt like my area of difficulty (tum-tum) was going to be highlighted even more. But when I wore the white skirt, I found that there were ways around it, and I was not going to eliminate an entire trend just because of my confidence. So, how I made skirts work for me is by either wearing a sweater with it or wearing a skirt with a pattern, pleating, or ruching to distract from the said problem area.

I decided to go with sweaters for this post because it is still very much winter outside. Since we are being honest all 2020 it was actually almost 70 degrees in Baltimore the day of this particular shoot and I was sweating bullets! But I digress. The sweater and skirt trend are kind of awesome in my opinion. As a person whose legs do not usually get cold, it works for me to wear them all year round. So, I can get away with wearing a skirt with a sweater and a jacket in the winter and then wearing cooler clothing and less layers in the warmer seasons. Skirts might actually be making my favorite item of clothing for the year; it is still a little too early to tell, though.

Star Printed Skirt: Paired with a white and black sweater and patent leather, silver-tipped booties. The only issue that I had with the skirt was that it kept riding up, I wanted it to sit in a particular area, and it just wouldn’t behave. Other than that, the skirt is fantastic and has a beautiful thick lining. Great for winter!

Black skirt with Side Split: Paired with a white sweater and over-the-knee black boots. This outfit was super cozy and comfortable. I recommend wearing seamless, skin-colored underwear as the skirt material is thin. The side split showed just enough leg to still be cute but warm at the same time. In the warmer months, I might pair it with a t-shirt and some sandals and be just as comfortable.

Pinstriped Navy and Dark Navy Skirt: Paired with a white sweater and blue booties. I recently wore this exact outfit to my friend’s graduation. Unfortunately, it was like 12 degrees, and I couldn’t get a good picture, but I wanted to wear it again for you guys! This skirt is quite comfortable and very versatile, in my opinion. The contrast of navies makes it really unique, and I’m excited to find ways to wear it during the warmer seasons.

#letsgetthroughthistogether

New Year, New…What?

Happy New Year, Loves! We are in 2020, and that is extremely weird for me to say honestly. It feels like 2019 just flew by for me, and as ready as I am for 2020, I was not prepared for the year to speed on through like that. Last blog post, I did a recap of 2019. We talked about my accomplishments and what made 2019 such a big year for me. I’m going to talk about what’s coming for me, and what I am focusing on in 2020.

Plus-sized people! I am so proud of the confidence that I saw last year within this community. I know it’s hard and we don’t always have it easy, but I am proud of us as a whole. I want to make sure that 2020 solidifies the fact that all bodies are beautiful, and we can be accepted just the way we are. We can date who we want, dress how we want, be seen as much as we want, we don’t need anyone telling us we can’t. Keep that same energy all 2020 plus-sized community. A lot of companies (and people) were criticized for normalizing plus-sized bodies, and to me, that was just sad. How awesome would the world be if everyone could just be themselves and not feel like someone doesn’t like them because of their bodies, race, likes, and dislikes, etc.? Ladies be confident no matter what size you are. Wear that thing that they told you couldn’t wear! We are going to be wearing things and going OFF all 2020.

2020 is going to be the year of Shanice. I want to ensure that I am doing everything I can to reach my absolute full potential by the end of this year. Last year I sat back, and although I worked on bettering myself, I didn’t do much to implement the changes in my life. I did learn to put myself first, but I struggled through that. I am going to be sure that I do everything I can to protect myself and my peace. I was recently speaking to my mother about a situation that ruined my peace last year. We talked about the situation at length and decided that the best option was the most peaceful option. Sometimes protecting your peace means distancing yourself from people that you deem toxic, which could even mean family or friends. I am going to avoid anything that causes me any strife readily. That also means creating a stress-free environment for me, even self-inflicted stress, I am going to do better this year all around.

Within creating a stress-free life, I also need to be healthy. I’m not looking to lose any significant weight; my main goal is to be the best version of me! That means eating properly and being more physically active. I want to feel like my body is happy with me. Side note: how many plus-sized women have issues finding quality gym wear? Being healthy also means promoting excellent mental health. So, meditation and yoga will become part of my schedule.

2020 is also going to be about gaining more confidence. Last year, I started a confidence journey that I am very proud of! But this year, I would like to explore that more. That means posting pictures in the most unflattering body position, sitting down. I usually only post the most flattering of photos, but this year I’d like to show more of the pictures that don’t always make the cut. I also want to be in swimwear more this year as well as more form-fitting clothing. My confidence journey also includes more YouTube videos or IGTV videos. We’ll see which one works best for me. Writing has become more of an outlet for me, but I’m going to start talking again real soon! As for my blog, I’d like to discuss more in-depth things. I’ll be discussing some things that every plus-sized woman thinks and goes through. For example, where to shop for underwear, dating as a plus-sized woman, the most comfortable heels to wear, how to deal with body-shaming relatives and people, and so much more. All in all, I am VERY excited.

I Got 2020 Vision

Guys…it is almost the new year. It is nearly time to start seeing “new year, new me” on every Instagram post, Facebook status, Twitter tweet, and whatever other social platforms we use. People always say it but end up having the same year over and over and over again. I do not want that for me in 2020, and I am looking forward to creating, not a new Shanice, but a better one. Starting a new year means that you have a blank canvas to paint on and add to your collection. It doesn’t mean that you scrap the old painting and start all over. The start of a new year doesn’t mean that you have to reinvent yourself, you shouldn’t be doing that anyway. A new year should be seen as an opportunity, rather than a chance to become a new you. Carry all of the mistakes and lessons over and ensure that you make the changes necessary to create a better situation for yourself.

The most powerful thing that I learned in 2019 is that sometimes you have to put yourself first. I believe I’ve said this before, but if you are not 100%, you can’t give people anything. If you are at 50% and you decide that you’re going to do something for someone that will take up 25% and then do something else that takes up another 10% and then another 15%, you will end up with absolutely nothing. You will end up feeling bogged down and overwhelmed, so it’s super important to put yourself and your well-being first. I am the queen of saying yes to everything that is asked of me, regardless of it will cause me stress or not. I have a strong need to please everyone around me and make sure that I always see smiling faces. I take it very personally when I cannot finish all my tasks, or if I have to disappoint someone, it literally hurts me. So instead of saying no, I say yes, and 9 times out of 10, I cause stress to myself. In 2020 I will continue the trend of putting myself first, and I want to see what it does for my mental health.

As much as I have learned to put myself first, I’ve also learned that asking for help doesn’t mean you’re weak. I try to do everything myself and because of that sometimes I struggle. I had to learn and I’m still learning to ask for what I need, which is help. I also have to learn to ask for the right kind of help.

2019 also gave me some fantastic moments that I am oh so proud of. My blog happens to be the most amazing part of 2019. I had been talking about starting a blog for a long time, and to see all of those dreams come to fruition was heartwarming. I also got into Grad school in 2019, which almost didn’t happen because I forgot the application due date and submitted the form the last day! 2019 also showed me that friends come and go, but family is constant. I made friends, I reconnected with friends, lost some friends, gained more friends, and everything in between that. I learned not to take everything so personal, not everyone is going to like you or put the effort in that you do. Understanding this will allow for more growth.

As we are closing out 2019, I’d like to share with you guys my favorite outfits of the year.

5. Boyfriend shirt, boyfriend jeans, Platform Fenty Pumas.

4. White skirt, off-white sweater, pink heels

3. Green pants, cream sweater, snakeskin heels

2. Full tan suit

1. Colorful faux fur jacket, boyfriend jeans, nude heels

Closing out 2019 is going to feel like a great chapter coming to an end. This year has been full of surprises. I feel myself growing up and getting older, I am honestly just happy and grateful. God has created a path for me that can be touched by no one, I am excited and ready for what 2020 has to offer. I want to thank everyone that has supported me in every way they can this year. You guys have no idea what you mean to me, and I hope you feel irreplaceable because you are. I plan on creating better content, more YouTube videos, and more conversation pieces. I’m ready, y’all!

#letsgetthroughthistogether

Long Story Short: I Look Like a Present

Christmas is literally on Wednesday, which means the end of the year is upon us, but we’ll talk about that another day! As we near the end of the year, I am going to be reflecting on certain things and just giving you guys a recap of this year. I am honestly looking forward to 2020 and what it holds for me. However, today, I am here to talk about this shirt that made me look like the cutest Christmas present ever. Also, about Christmas and what it means to me, but mostly the top.

As a child, Christmas was only a reason for getting more Barbie dolls and clothes. The kids in my family would wake up our parents and run downstairs to see who got what and what we would be playing with or wearing for the next few weeks. We would always have family visiting from all over, and there would be music and laughs in the house. My family, who can throw down in any kitchen, always made a fantastic meal, which made us gather in the best way. As I got older, Christmas became less of that, and I had a hard time understanding this. As an only child, I lived for moments where I could interact with most of my family. I still have those feelings, but now they are more fine-tuned. I want to gather with my family, not for presents are the notion of receiving something, but mostly to feel the togetherness that I crave with them. I absolutely adore my family, and every single person makes us who we are! I know that if you have children, especially young children, it is essential to make their Christmas special. But, never forget that the toys or objects that you give them are merely just that. In a few months, that toy will be under the bed covered in dust, but one thing will always remain: memories.

Now to this top! I found this top a few months ago on ASOS, I was just doing my daily browse. I rarely buy anything full price, but this was too cute to pass up. I literally look like a perfectly wrapped present (thank you, Janrose, for the bow). The material of the top is perfect for any holiday celebration and will honestly show a stop. I know you guys are going to come for me because I made an entire post about Thanksgiving outfits and did not wear any of them. But I MIGHT actually wear this top to Christmas dinner. I paired it with leather-looking pants and faux suede boots.

Side note: For dinner, I’ll probably wear jeans, to dress the top down a tad bit. I would also try tucking into a cute pleated skirt I’m feeling fancy. It all depends on the look you’re going for. Items like these become wardrobe staples and can be very versatile if tried.

Tips for Plus-Sized Ladies

When I first released my blog in July, I had no idea the kind of support or feedback I would receive. One of the most common comments that I received was that women never had someone to tell them or show them how to style their plus-sized bodies or what to wear in general. I understand and can sympathize, trust me! My body changes and has changed over the past few years, I had to learn to dress my body and know what’s right for me. So, I wanted to share my growing knowledge with you guys. Now I usually gear my posts toward plus-sized women, but this can go for any size woman or even men. 

  • Know your measurements and your body shape. Do not be ashamed to ask a professional to measure your body, it’s okay, and that is their job. Plus, when you order something online, you want to be sure that it is going to fit. Knowing your body shape is also extremely important. Certain things do not look great on individual bodies.
  • Google what you are looking for, you can always find new items when you search the internet. Instagram is also an option for unique pieces. I will say that you should be very aware of scam sites, always check the followers and their comments to see how legit they really are. When you are ordering something from a website that you have never ordered from before, do a small order first just to make sure of the sizes. Some places may offer your size, but the items may be cut smaller or lack stretch. Always read the reviews! Look for like-sized people and see how it fits their bodies. ASOS has a great video feature that allows you to see how the item flows or swings on a model. 
  • Don’t listen to the plus-sized fashion myths. Wearing horizontal stripes is for every sized body! I always heard that the plusher you are, the less you should wear horizontal stripes. I happen to disagree. The only thing that I would suggest is getting a stripe that is a little wider. Thinner stripes tend to create a widening effect, especially around your tummy (if you have one). Patterns are also a great way to show personality, and you should never shy away from them. Wearing patterns is for everyone, but if you feel patterns aren’t your thing, then try a subtle pattern like brushstrokes. 
  • Leggings are probably the most comfortable item of clothing for ANY woman. When I wear leggings, I always have a shirt to cover my hindquarters, that’s what I like personally. If you are going to wear leggings with a short top, make sure that your leggings are of good quality. Some leggings look really opaque, but as soon as you put them on your body, they reveal their true selves.  
  • Invest in some B O M B underwear. Guys, I cannot tell you how vital underwear can be, ESPECIALLY a good bra. If you are top-heavier, having a good bra is IMPERATIVE. Back pain isn’t fun to experience, and if you can prevent that by having a structured bra that fits you properly, then why would you wear anything else. Panties are just as important. Also, if you are a shapewear type of person, buying a more expensive brand might give you the results that you want. I am currently in the market for shapewear, I might just do a try-on haul for you guys! 
  • Wear fitted clothing. I love oversized clothing as much as the next girl, but don’t shy away from wearing fitted clothing. Clothes can be much more flattering if they are more form-fitting. Also, don’t be afraid of the tummy. We are always told to do everything we can to hide our tummies, sometimes you just can’t and shouldn’t force it.
  • When in doubt, add a belt or subtle accessories. Belts can accentuate your waist and give your body more dimension. It can also provide an outfit a little extra trendiness! I’m not big on accessories but statement jewelry can also add to any outfit and draw attention to your fabulousness.
  • Do not be afraid to show your curves. Society will tell us that we aren’t beautiful or that we need to lose weight to be more attractive, or we’ll never get a man or whatever. I’m not now, nor will I ever, knock anyone’s drive to live a healthier lifestyle but do that for you. Don’t shame other people for being comfortable with who they are. Don’t be afraid to be unapologetically you! I say this all the time, wear what you want and be confident in what you wear. Wear what makes you feel great!

#letsgetthroughthistogether

Deconstructed Suit

Hello, and welcome back to my blog page. Today we’re going to be discussing suits. Okay, I couldn’t last with the seriousness too long. Well, we are going to be talking suits, specifically one suit, so that part was genuine. BUT Hello everyone, how are ya? I hope your week was awesome, mine left something to be desired that’s for sure! This week I decided it was finally time to wear the suit that I had been holding on to for quite some time. I’m not really super into suits, but I have seen the rise in trend over the last year. So, I thought I would show you guys how I styled my suit together and separately. Suits are not in my regular work repertoire, but I have an intense fascination with wearing a suit to a formal event with some type of lacey bodysuit and some sky-high stilettos. That’s going to stay a fantasy for a while because me and sky-high stilettos do not typically work out, I do the weird buckle that Kevin Hart talked about in his comedy special.Read More »